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100 Condolence Messages That Offer Sympathy

Don't be so afraid to say the wrong thing that you end up saying nothing at all. These condolence messages will help you find just the right words.

Day by day, we will let go of this loss, but we will never let go of our love.
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What to say when someone dies

When someone you care about has lost someone they care about, it’s important to reach out and show your love. Condolence messages are a simple and beautiful way to do that. But even though death and grief are universal experiences, it can be hard to find the right things to say to someone who is grieving or know what to write in a condolence card—probably because there aren’t any words that can take away their pain.

But it’s proper etiquette to say something rather than to stay silent. Otherwise, the person who’s grieving might think you don’t care. To help, we came up with a list of beautiful, heartfelt, warm and sympathetic condolence messages. You can write them in a sympathy card, comment on a social media post or send a short condolence message in a text or email. To help you find the right words to express your sympathy, here’s our list of condolences messages for friends, family, co-workers or neighbors.

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Short condolence messages

  1. I’m so sorry for your loss.

  2. My heart breaks for you.

  3. This hurts, and it sucks!

  4. You are in my prayers.

  5. My heart is with you at this time.

  6. I love you, and I’m here for you.

  7. I’m so sorry you are hurting.

  8. Sending love and peace.

  9. You are in my thoughts.

  10. May you find comfort at this time.

  11. Blessings for you and your loved ones.

  12. I’m with you during this difficult time.

  13. I hope you can feel my love.

  14. Love and support for you and yours.

  15. I wish I could give you the biggest hug.

  16. Sending you peaceful and loving vibes.

  17. Praying you feel comforted.

  18. You can cry on my shoulder.

  19. I’m devastated for you.

  20. My heart goes out to you at this difficult time.

You also can’t go wrong with one of these loss quotes.

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Condolence messages for friends

  1. May your heart find solace in remembering their light, beauty and laughter.

  2. Know you are not alone and that I’m here to listen anytime you want to talk.

  3. I don’t have the right words to tell you what’s in my heart, but know I’m here for you.

  4. Sending you this note of comfort to let you know you are in my heart.

  5. I wish we could go back to the last time we were all together and hold that moment forever.

  6. I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine your pain and grief at this time.

  7. During this difficult time, may our friendship be a source of comfort and strength.

  8. Day by day, we will let go of this loss, but we will never let go of our love.

  9. Every time I see a bright star in the sky, I will think of him/her and his/her light.

  10. Lean on us as much as you need during this time. We’re here for you.

  11. You’re dealing with the shock of the news and the pain of the loss—that’s a lot. Cry as much as you need.

  12. Nothing about this is easy, and it just hurts. I’m so sorry, my friend.

  13. I wish I knew the perfect thing to say to make it all better, but those words don’t exist, so instead: I love you.

  14. I’m praying for you and your loved ones as you struggle with this immense loss.

  15. The world is a little darker today from the loss of his/her light.

  16. Losing a dear friend is losing both your past memories and the ones you would have built in the future. I’m so sorry.

  17. Let me take you out to lunch and you can share all your favorite stories of him/her.

  18. My heart hurts for you, and I grieve with you.

  19. Grief is all the love you want to give but can’t anymore. I’m heartbroken for your loss.

  20. There are things death cannot touch, and your love for him/her is one of them.

Have a living loved one you’d love to get back in touch with? These “miss you” quotes are a perfect way to reach out.

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Condolence messages for co-workers

  1. We are so sorry for your loss. Please take this time to mourn with your loved ones, and don’t worry about a thing here.

  2. I’m heartbroken for your loss and hoping you find peace during this trying time.

  3. We were co-workers of [person’s name] and want you to know we miss him and work will not be the same without him.

  4. Condolences to you and your loved ones during this time of grief.

  5. I’m deeply sorry to hear about your recent loss.

  6. May you find peace in your pain and comfort in your grief.

  7. Wishing you many happy memories of your loved one.

  8. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.

  9. Sending you and your family all my love and support.

  10. Please accept our heartfelt condolences at this time.

  11. Words simply can’t express how heartbroken I am for you at this time.

  12. Offering you all my sympathy at this time.

  13. May you have a treasure box full of memories of your loved one that shine like jewels.

  14. My heart hurts for you. I’m sure you miss [person’s name] more than anything.

  15. Words can’t express my sorrow for you and your family. Please accept my condolences.

  16. There is no footprint too tiny to not leave a mark on your heart.

  17. Thinking of you and praying for peace and solace.

  18. We’re here for you during this difficult time. Lean on us for whatever you need at work!

  19. With love and remembrance for your loved one.

  20. Just a note to let you know how many of us care about you and are thinking about you during this time of mourning.

Down the road, after the initial grieving period has passed, you may also want to share these hope quotes.

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Condolence messages for someone who lost a parent

  1. Your mom/dad was an amazing soul, and I will never forget her/him.

  2. Your mother/father had a profound impact on my life, and she/he will be greatly missed.

  3. Loss is a part of life, but that doesn’t make it any easier—all my love to you as you navigate these uncharted waters.

  4. I may not have ever met him/her, but if you’re a reflection of them, they must have been really amazing.

  5. Losing a parent is like losing a piece of you.

  6. Your grief feels so deep because your love for them is so big.

  7. He/she may be gone, but he/she will always be here in our hearts.

  8. I’m so sorry to hear of your loss. He/she will be truly missed.

  9. May his/her soul rest in peace, and may you find peace as well.

  10. Praying you feel God’s arms around you as you weep.

  11. Sending you the strength and courage you need to face the days ahead without him/her.

  12. Your mom/dad was a great person who touched so many lives, including mine. I will miss her/him.

  13. If I could heal your pain, I would, but instead please accept my love as a balm to your heart.

  14. Your parent isn’t truly gone—they live on in the love they planted in your heart.

  15. Grief is something you understand only by going through it. At least we can go through it together.

  16. May the healer of all wounds heal your broken heart.

  17. My deepest sympathy for your loss. He/she is gone too soon.

  18. He/she may be gone from our sight, but he/she will always be in our hearts.

  19. I deeply cherish my memories of your mom/dad and would love to share them with you when you’re ready.

  20. All my sympathy during this time of deepest sorrow.

If you want to do more, here are some powerful ways to support someone who has lost a loved one.

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Condolence messages for someone who lost a spouse

  1. I can’t understand what you’re going through, but I love you, and I’m here to help in any way I can.

  2. Today the world lost a bright light, but I will always keep him/her burning in my heart.

  3. May you feel the sunshine warming you each day as you move forward.

  4. Nothing will ever be the same again, and it’s OK not to pretend it will ever go back to “normal.”

  5. Deep sorrow can feel like drowning. Please know I’m here to be your life raft.

  6. I can’t imagine anything more difficult than losing the love of your life. I’m so sorry.

  7. No one can prepare for this type of loss. Sending you strength at this time.

  8. He/she was a truly special person and will be missed by all of us.

  9. I have an endless supply of tea, tissues and hugs, anytime you need them.

  10. May you find solace in knowing that he/she will never be forgotten and his/her memories will live forever in my heart.

  11. When we lose someone dear, the challenge isn’t to learn to live without them but to learn to live with the love they left behind.

  12. The hardest part isn’t remembering the life they left behind but building a new life without them in it.

  13. Wishing you happiness looking back, strength looking forward and solace in the present.

  14. May you be comforted in cherished memories, perfect peace and gentle understanding.

  15. You could have had no better hiking buddy on this journey of life.

  16. Watching you two together heightened my understanding of love, and watching you grieve has deepened my understanding of love as well.

  17. Your husband/wife was a hero and mentor, beloved by so many, including me. He/she will not be forgotten.

  18. May his/her memory be eternally etched in our hearts.

  19. I can’t find the right words to say to you, and I’m afraid to say the wrong thing, so I’ll just tell you how much I love you and that I’m here to support you.

  20. Sending all my sympathy and strength to you for this tragic and unexpected loss.

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Charlotte Hilton Andersen
Charlotte Hilton Andersen is a health, lifestyle and fitness expert and teacher. She covers all things wellness for Reader’s Digest and The Healthy. With dual masters degrees in information technology and education, she has been a journalist for 17 years and is the author of The Great Fitness Experiment. She lives in Denver with her husband, five kids and three pets.